Your parenting isn’t working as you thought and hoped it’d would?

You are not alone!

So you are looking for new ideas and stumble across conscious or gentle parenting?

Is it the same?

Short answer is no.

Even though a lot of gentle parents are also conscious of themselves, their triggers and are working on healing their inner child, but if you just want to break it down if they are the same, they are not the approach is different as well the idea behind it.

-I will try to explain it in my words if you have anything to add please comment below-

•Gentle parenting:

Is a parenting „style“ that you can use in form of phrases and words to react when your child is behaving in certain ways in different situations. You can think of them as tools you can choose while parenting.

For example:

Your child is getting upset for not being allowed to read another book in the evening.

A gentle parenting responds would be: „I see you are upset and I understand you want to read another book. I sometimes want to stay up later too, but we have to go to sleep now. We can read another one tomorrow!“

•Conscious parenting is when you don’t only see the tip of the iceberg, you realise that being angry and frustrated is a secondary emotion, which means its caused by something that happened before and a need that wasn’t met that led to being angry. And knowing your child because everyday is different so is every situation.

So in the same situation you would ask yourself why are you so upset, its not just the book that we aren’t reading tonight, have we connected enough today, are you still hungry, are you overtired, overstimulated? And you consciously try to see what’s going on beneath the surface.